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Hi all! Stay tuned on my Youtube channel for #SexyMamaMondays, to watch my weekly video of sex tips for moms! View this week’s video HERE!
Meet Eri Kardos. She is an International Communications and Connection Coach, Speaker, Author, and Mom. She specializes in empowering people to choose their own adventure in relationships, career, and life. Eri provides video coaching sessions to clients across the globe. You can check out her soon-to-be-released book, “Relationship Agreements” and find her online at www.EriKardos.com.
Name: Eri Kardos
Occupation: International Communications & Connection Coach, Speaker, & Author
Child’s (Children’s age): 11 months (& 3 months in my uterus!)
2. How do you nourish yourself in a way that makes you feel honored, inspired, and sexually empowered?
3. What was the most unexpected thing that you discovered about navigating your sex life after you became a parent?
4. What is your favorite date night experience now that you are a mom?
5. How has your relationship to your body and your partner shifted or transformed through parenthood?
Honestly, I am not in connection with my body as much as I was prior to becoming a mom. I have been a dancer all of my life, and was getting out on the social dance floor several times a week up until Aavi was born. Now it seems the only dancing I do is in my living room with my baby (which, come to think of it, is a daily occurrence!). It is possible to remain somatically connected, and it takes more intention and creativity now.
As I write this I am beginning the second trimester of my second pregnancy. What a totally different experience from the first time! With Aavi I was SO in touch with my body and noticed every little change, received every message loud and clear, and was regularly in awe of my body’s power to create life. This time around it feels more natural and I am so busy chasing a toddler around that it takes a great deal of intention to tune into my pregnant body and the new baby inside! I would have never imagined this could be my experience, and yet it is – and I hear from other mom’s that they had similar experiences with pregnancy after their first.
In terms of my relationship with my partner, we have deepened our connection as life partners and soulmates. There is something incredibly powerful about going through the fire of parenting together. Each day is a new adventure and a new set of challenges. We love it so much that we decided to start trying for baby #2 once baby #1 hit 8 months old. While we have had to find creative and intentional ways of connecting romantically regularly, the flow of communication between us has turned up to full force and I love the new groove we share.
6. What is your number one tip for making time for intimacy and a relationship?
7. What was one thing about pregnancy sex that you loved? What was one thing about pregnancy sex that was challenging for you?
I have always been pansexual and have been involved in open relationships for many years. When I became pregnant I was amazed at how my desires really became centered around female-bodied and female-identified people. This led to more exploration with wonderful, adventurous female-presenting humans. I can easily say that breasts and vaginas have never been as yummy as when I was pregnant. I still think of those times fondly when I need some fantasy material.
One thing that challenged me was my ever-changing libido. Some moments I wanted to fuck everything, and other moments I was repulsed by the thought of touch. Thank goodness for compassionate, patient, communicative partners who listened and held space for me. Together we were able to find meaningful ways to connect no matter what my sex drive was doing.
8. Where do you find erotic and sensual inspiration now that you’re a mom?
9. What was your greatest resource post-partum for reclaiming your body and sexual self?
10. What are ways that you facilitate a body positive/sex positive environment for your child to grow/thrive/explore?
If you have not seen it yet, I encourage you to check out Amy Lang’s work at www.birdsandbeesandkids.com. She is a wonderful sex-educator for families and offers ideas on how to create a healthy body positive and sex positive environment throughout all stages of growth and development.
Things that we currently do in Aavi’s first year of life include lots of naked time as a family, co-showering, naked time for him around the house (yes, this means we are ever-prepared to clean up after him), and naming body parts as he discovers them – including, “That is your penis.” We also practice establishing boundaries for our own bodies. For example, when he was nursing and would bite me I would react by pulling him off my breast and stating, “Ouch! It hurts my body when you bite me. I feel sad and hurt.” Later when he was closer to 10 months he began pinching everything (including my labia and nipples!). I would once again have a big reaction where it was clear that I was feeling hurt, and remove him from being near my body, explaining my feelings and creating a clear cause and effect for him. It takes time, patience, and love to establish these boundaries and he catches on surprisingly quickly – especially when it is about the emotional response of sadness and pain for us versus anger and punishment.
Time: 2-4 PM
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Moms! Come learn how to put the spice back in your sex lives with Carol Queen and me. This is my last event of the summer; don’t miss it!
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